This week was a very special week, it was the week our boy turned 18… how the heck did that happen! turning Eighteen is a BIG deal, not just from our emotional parent perspective but from Danny’s also. Eighteen is a magical birthday, it’s a milestone that comes with lots of privileges and also lots of responsibility. Our boy can vote, get married, drive and lots of other big and wonderful options that are out there in the big wide world. new doors have now opened for Danny and lots more options and responsibility are now oozing out at him.
Our boy no longer requires our parental permission for anything, he is now fully responsible for his own decisions even his health, it’s kinda scary for us as a parent to loose all this control/say over night just like that. Obviously we will still be there helping and guiding Danny, but only now if he is wanting/asking for help as he is an adult now and the responsibility is his, we can only sort things for him now with his permission.
We have to adjust to a lot of changes now, we now have to:
Stand back and see him as the Adult he now is
Let him lead and just stay in the distance for when needed
Ask how can we help
Remind him we are always here to help when needed……ALWAYS!
Give guidance where/when we can
And this is just a few changes, where before we would be the ones in control just doing things naturally, we now have to have Danny’s permission and its kind of strange.
Anyone got any tips on helping us to adjust to this situation and guide Danny into these BIG changes? I know things will settle and we will adjust given time but it is just a strange feeling…..a very strange feeling, our boy is now an adult.
Is there anything you done at 18 that you wish you hadn’t and could go back and change/do differently?