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Tips For A More Mindful Marriage In This Digital Era

Tips For A More Mindful Marriage In This Digital Era
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Do you ever feel like your mind just never stops? Our hyper-connected world provides a lot of distractions in our daily lives. We live in a world where we’re all consumed by our smartphones and we find it harder and harder to concentrate on a single task without the urge to check emails, social media feeds and all sorts of notifications that might pop up. 

The practice of mindfulness has never been more paramount, than it is in this day and age. It’s very much vital for our mental well-being. But what about the effect this has on our relationships?

Often our marriages get distracted as well. There are bills to pay, chores to do, meals to prepare, and much more. Life is busy. But it shouldn’t get in the way of a great marriage.

Plan together

When you first were married, you most likely had big plans for your life. Are you meeting the goal that you made together? Remember in the early stages when it was all exciting and you were busy looking for diamond engagement rings and looking through your wedding? You need to stay as focused as you were back then on your future

Take time together on a regular basis to make plans. Mark it on your calendar so that you don’t forget to talk about the months ahead. Plan the everyday tasks and also the big things like holidays. This is also a perfect time to work on your life vision. What does it look like and how well are you doing in realising it?

Plan to have time with your partner

Not only should you plan your ongoing life together, but you should also make time for each other in your day to day lives. Life can get really busy, but every once in a while it’s a good idea to make some time that’s just for the two of you. So plan a date night and try and keep to a regular schedule. It may be once a week, once a fortnight or even once a month. Whatever works best for you, working around your commitments.

Challenge yourself to dedicate some time alone, where you are not distracted by your smartphones or the TV. Just the two of you, chatting about your day. It’ll help you reconnect and reinforce your bond.  While you’re making time for each other, you can use this opportunity to indulge your partner in their interests and learn to appreciate what makes the other one tick.

Continually learn about each other

We all change a little over time and our needs and interests change as we adapt. Make sure that you take the time to ask questions and see if you can find out something that you didn’t know about them. Chances are that you blindly assume some aspects of their personality, that you might be proven wrong on.  Even if you’ve been married for decades, there are still things you don’t know about your spouse. Take the time to find out his or her thoughts, feelings, memories, and future goals.

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Date Night

Date Night After 15 Year’s Married

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After being married nearly fifteen years all the effort with each other such as making time for each other, going out for romantic meals etc, it all seems to be a day of the past. Date night was something we said promissed each other was something we said we would make time for this year.

We said it doesn’t have to be anything fancy or expensive, just a nice quiet undisturbed night in with a nice take away and cheap bottle of wine would be perfect. With being working parents of teenagers who attend lots of after school sports activities we are always busy rushing here or there and evenings are always a mad rush, evenings are something we hardly see much of together with time to just relax together.

We Hardly Spend Time Together

Last week Ian had commented to me that he hardly see’s me these days since my return back to work, I have only gone back on a part-time basis at the moment to ease myself back in slowly following my car accident but I have also joined our local gym and have been attending quite a few classes in the evenings meaning I have not been returning home untill around 9.30 – 10pm by that point the evening is gone.

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Ian does shift work meaning some weeks he works nights, when he is on night shift we are lucky to see each other at all as I am out during the day and when I get home he has already gone to work. This week he is working away for the week meaning we will not see each other for five day’s and we will all miss him like mad.

We think making time for each other is just as important as making time for our children, we tend to just have the odd hour here and there lately as one of us is on our way in and the other on our way out, it’s just madness and it need’s to change.

Making A Date Night A Priority

So after a nice chat we have decided to add a date night to our busy schedule and make it priority over any gym classes, phone calls, even the internet…..In our house this is a highly used annoyance that gets in the way of family time that we do have.

So last night was date night take one, we found a cheesy film to watch, we had strawberries, chocolates, wine, candles and most of all time for each other and it was lovely.

Date night is something we said we will be making time for in the future, once a fortnight or once a month we don’t know yet but it will be happening as any married couple needs quality time together.

Do you feel a date night is important when married ?