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Losses in Life You Should Accept and Move On

Losses in Life You Should Accept and Move On

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It’s time to move on. You have been through a lot, and it feels as though you are going nowhere. There is always someone who has experienced what you’re going through, and they can help guide the way, but only if you reach out. It’s not easy to admit that life isn’t all rainbows and unicorns, but you need to accept these losses for them not to control you anymore.

Loss of a Loved One

Understandably, losing someone you love can be very difficult. It’s important to remember, though, that the loss of loved ones is inevitable, and everyone will experience this type of pain at some point in their lives. If the death was sudden or due to an accident, it might take longer for people to accept because they did not have a chance to say goodbye or prepare for the loss. 

That’s why it’s important to remind yourself that it is okay to mourn for as long as you want. You are entitled to feel whatever emotions come your way—there’s no timetable on mourning the loss of a loved one. However, it’s crucial to find ways of coping and eventually move on with your life.

Another way to cope with loss is to prepare a meaningful send-off. You don’t have to do everything yourself; just hire burial services to cater to your needs.

Loss of a College Sponsorship

Losing a college sponsorship is not a pleasant feeling. It can be disheartening and cause you to lose motivation. However, losing a college sponsorship will not mean the end of your career. In fact, you should be grateful for this experience as it will teach you how strong and resilient human beings are. 

The first thing you need to do is accept that it happened, and there was nothing you could have done about it. It was out of your control, so why bother holding a grudge or wasting time on something you cannot reverse? Instead, you should put all your efforts into finding another sponsorship. It is not easy, but it will most likely be worth the effort in the end.

Loss of a Job

Loss of a job can be tough to handle, especially when you are not expecting it. While it is okay to feel bad that you lost your job, don’t let those feelings of sadness and depression linger. Instead, accept the loss as an event in life and move on.

Keep yourself fit mentally and emotionally to get through another job search until you find what you’re looking for.

Loss of Friendship

Sometimes you can be friends with someone for a long time, but then they do something that breaks the relationship apart. If this happens to you, it is important not to blame yourself or wonder if there was anything that you could have done differently because there isn’t in most cases. The only thing left for you to do is to accept the loss and move on.

It is okay to take a break from social media or certain friends for a little while if it helps you cope with what has happened, but don’t completely cut them out of your life forever because that will only cause more problems down the road. The important thing is to learn from this experience so that it doesn’t happen again.

Loss of Money

Loss of money can be stressful, but all you need to do is accept the loss and move on. You cannot change what has happened in the past, so it’s time for things to look up from now on wards.

Conclusion

In conclusion, losses in life are inevitable. However, you only need to learn how to accept them and move on with your life. To do this, you must also learn from past mistakes to avoid making similar decisions.

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Methods Of Lowering The Daily Stress Of Becoming A New Parent

Methods Of Lowering The Daily Stress Of Becoming A New Parent

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Anyone who has been a parent for a while will know all about the stress and strain of being a mother or father. Those without children will only see a select few scenarios of parenting, but the truth is so much more than what you view when you visit or when you look at social media. Parenting is pretty difficult as it’s a 24/7 job. Even when you aren’t directly taking care of them, you have worries and lots of jobs to do. You’ll never stop being a parent once you become one. 

The stress is something that a lot of people struggle to deal with. Depression and nervous breakdowns are common among parents both young and old. Fortunately, there are plenty of things that can be done in order to lower the stress and anxiety that comes with having to raise kids – both in the lead-up to the birth and the subsequent parenting. Here are five ideas that may help:

Plan Out Your Days And How The Future Will Go 

Things are always much easier with a plan. If you plan out what you’re going to do with your family or future family, then you’re going to remove a lot of anxiety. Uncertainty is a killer for a lot of people because it makes people fear the unknown and makes them feel perilous. Knowing how your days are going to pan out will help out so much with soothing your mind. 

Ensure All Other Domestic Issues Are Handled 

Becoming a parent will obviously weigh on you most for most of the day, but there will be other things in life that you must handle. At home, you have plenty of jobs. You’ll need to keep everything clean and ready for the baby (or babies), of course. You’ll also have to ensure things like energy bills and other financial dues are paid. If you can remove some fundamental stresses, it makes things a lot clearer for you to become the parent you wish to be. 

Buy Absolutely Everything You Need

If you have all of the equipment and apparatus necessary to make parenting an easier job, then, by all means, take the opportunity. You’re going to need a lot of things in your favour when parenting as it’s a job that can take its toll on you. Companies such as Foryourlittleone can help you out hugely as they have an array of products for you and your partner to sink your teeth into, fortunately. 

Always Ask For Help 

You’re not going to know how everything works and you’re not going to be able to handle every single task. You will need someone else to come in and take the stress away a lot of the time. Be it friends, family members, and nannies – make sure you have people on your phone who will be willing to step in. 

Adopt A Positive Mindset Leading Up To It All

If you’re positive and you believe everything’s going to be okay in the end, then it makes the job even easier to deal with. Thinking about what might go wrong is a way of ensuring that things WILL go wrong.

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How To Take Better Care Of Your Mental Health

How To Take Better Care Of Your Mental Health

Have you ever been told to just ‘snap out of it’ or to ‘cheer up’ when you’re feeling down? You’ll know that it is just not that easy when you struggle with depression. 

Depression is an illness. It is not just an emotional weakness. It is caused by imbalances of brain chemicals or from historic trauma in your past. It should be treated as an illness just like any physical health problem might be. If you are struggling with depression, it is not something that you should feel the need to say sorry for, and you shouldn’t have to wear a smile for someone else’s benefit. 

Self-care is important, and you should do everything possible to look after yourself. Getting into a routine of looking after yourself is hard, however, in the long run, it is one of the best ways of helping yourself. 

Here are several ways that you could consider when it comes to taking better care of your mental health. 

Realize That You Need To Prioritize Your Mental Health 

Putting yourself first can be hard. Firstly, you may believe that to do this is selfish. Putting your needs before the needs of others may not come naturally to you. You may naturally be someone who believes in hard work and effort, and to put your own needs first may seem counter-intuitive to your goals and unproductive. But you must do your best to prioritize your mental health needs above everything else. This means giving yourself time to rest and recover whenever you need it. 

Stop Judging Yourself 

The biggest critic that you probably have is yourself. You may spend a lot of your time beating yourself up or judging yourself. But a judgement is an opinion, not a statement of fact. Don’t allow your negative view of yourself replace the real you. 

Keep your negative thoughts in check by challenging them. 

Look At Taking Herbal Remedies

There are many great herbal remedies for depression and anxiety. St John’s Wort is one example of a traditional remedy. Another might be CBD. 

CBD comes from the same plant as cannabis, however, it has none of the same psychoactive properties that the drug cannabis has, meaning that there is no high and you are just left feeling more relaxed- but still able to go about your regular daily life. 

CBD oil UK is one of the more popular ways of taking CBD, however, you can also get it in the form of gummies, or vape liquid. 

Talk About Your Problems 

One of the best ways of dealing with your mental health problems is to talk them through with a friend. Go for a coffee with a close friend and let them know what you are going through. You may be surprised at how empathetic and supportive they may end up being. In addition to this, they may be able to give you some advice on the situation that you find yourself in.  

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Time Needed

Time needed

You may or may not have noticed that our blog has been rather quite lately, well since spring if I’m honest. If you hadn’t noticed then it isn’t a problem of course, but I will explain the reason as to why our blog has been quiet.

Back in spring…

Our blog has been quiet since spring because this was the time I think I began to realise that I could no longer carry on pretending and had to stop with the constant worrying about what tomorrow would bring and just concentrate on the now. I am a known worrier – I just can’t help it and it bugs the hell out of Ian. I am always worrying about other people and hardly ever stop to think about myself. Do you find yourself doing the same?

On one of my lowest days back in spring Ian came home from work on his lunch break (he never does this) he came home to check on me and to see if I was OK. Upon his arrival home, no I wasn’t OK and he had walked-in to myself being in floods of tears and in a right state. I just felt like I had the weight of the world on my shoulders and I just couldn’t carry on anymore. On this day I had just had enough!

Things became more apparent…

I think on this day it became more apparent that I was having a breakdown. Back then I think my health problems played a massive part as it felt like they were winning, I was having to live day-by-day, not knowing how I was going to feel when I woke up which then had a knock-on affect to my job and I just felt like I was letting everyone down all the time. It just got to the point where painting a smile on my face and carrying on wasn’t working anymore. I did not feel in control anymore.

Back then I was working part-time as a carer support worker. My employer was fantastic and totally understanding but this didn’t stop me from feeling bad and like I was letting everyone down. I found that I was spending more time off sick than I was at work.

Things had to change…

It absolutely broke my heart and it was extremely hard to do but I resigned from my position as a carer/support worker. After a long chat with Ian he helped me realise that I just couldn’t carry on the way I was. Time out was desperately needed to help my health.

So, in the past 7 months I have been taking things day-by-day. I am now on medication to help with my depression. I do still have anxiety attacks but they are now few and far between, this has to be a good sign right?. I still have trouble sleeping but I am looking into ways to help with this. I now have things in place around the home to help make day-to-day life a little easier. I will be writing a post on things that I found and help me cope and carry on. Things which are still in place today.

Slowly gaining control…

My health conditions will always be there and I have now gotten use to that. I don’t like it but I have found my own way of accepting it. I am no longer going to dwell on what I can’t do because I am going to be to busy enjoying what I can do. I am not one for sitting around doing nothing so I am going to enjoy getting back to blogging again.

Ian and the boy’s have been my rock over the past few months. I really can’t thank them enough for helping me through. There is so much to share with you all but all that can be done in future posts.

Taking time out really has helped. There really is support out there for everyone. No one should have to suffer alone. Here is a link to >>> Mind <<< for anyone looking to seek help or support.

Always remember “it is OK to NOT be OK”

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Be The Most Relaxed Version Of Yourself

Be The Most Relaxed Version of Yourself

You have heard it said that stress is a killer. Stress wreaks havoc on the body. It affects blood pressure, blood sugar, the heart rate, and all the organs. It is a key factor in the risks of stroke and heart attack. It causes headaches, sleeplessness, digestion problem, and the list goes on.

When you are stressed, your body goes into slow motion. You lose your energy. You lose your drive and you invite depression to take over. The less you move the more stressed you become. But, you have the power to change this.

Making truth your reality

People who love you will give you the sound advice that you need to just calm down. Stop letting everything bother you. Do what you can do and walk away. That is very good advice if you do not have a job, a family, bills, pets, and a home. But, when you oversleep, the kids cannot find their science homework, your partner used your car and left it on empty, and the person in front of you seems to have only one objective, and that is making you late for work. Stress is part of life.

You can make some life changes that will keep these specific things from happening repeatedly, but there will always be stress in our high-tech world. Instead of focusing on the situations, let’s focus on changing the way we feel in order to process the stress.

Natures Xanax – only better

When stress and anxiety begin to affect our lives negatively, we go to the doctor. In some circumstances, people need the help of a prescription to calm down and press reset. The problem is, anxiety medication is addictive. When you finish the prescription, the anxiety comes back even worse than before. You cannot keep taking the prescription long.

The doctor may prescribe enough for a week or ten days, then take them away for a couple of weeks to protect you from addiction. So,  you put your body through cycles of relaxation and then anxiety, and the cycle repeats itself as long as the doctor prescribes the medication. At the end of the “help”, you are worse off than you were before. You did not make any changes to address the issues.

When you are sedated, you usually do not move around much. Prescription drugs make you feel as if you are in a mental fog. You sleep, but it is not a relaxing sleep. You feel no better or relaxed when you wake up.

Be The Most Relaxed Version of Yourself

Essential oils

Nature seemed to know that we would have stress in our lives. Nature gave us a huge selection of plants that have what we need. Natural oils are harvested from live plants. These oils are easy to use and they are not addictive, have zero chemicals, and gives you the help you need to allow your body to return to normal.

Let’s look at a few oils that are proven to work. You can mix the oils for the desired effect, which only you can explore.

We will list a few examples of essential oils and the benefit it gives you. But there are hundreds of essential oils. You will need to find a combination that works for you.

Note: Essential oils are usually released into the air with the use of a diffuser. The oils enter the thin nasal membranes and are absorbed. You should be careful about placing essential oils directly on your skin. Use a carrier oil such as coconut oil, or test a very small place on your body and watch for burning or rash. You may be able to rub the oil of your choice on the skin, just be careful.

Be The Most Relaxed Version of Yourself

Anxiety

The following oils will calm you and allow you to de-stress and feel much more relaxed.

  • Lavender
  • Rosemary
  • Ylang-Ylang
  • Rose
  • Bergamot

Sleep

  • Lavender
  • Chamomile
  • Clary Sage

The use of these oils will calm your stress level and assist you in getting a relaxed night of restful sleep. Once your body is responding to this, you will need to boost your energy level.

Be The Most Relaxed Version of Yourself

Energy

  • Rosemary
  • Peppermint (Also a natural anti-inflammatory and pain killer for those sore muscles).
  • Grapefruit
  • Eucalyptus

Now you can move on to mood enhancers. These oils lift your spirits, ease any muscle pain you have and generally make you feel good.

  • Peppermint
  • Sweet Orange
  • Frankincense
  • Lemon essential
  • Cedarwood

Get moving!

Be The Most Relaxed Version of Yourself

You are feeling better and more relaxed. Now fight off depression, boost your energy, and be the best you can be by exercising. When you are active, your brain naturally produces more serotonin. This is a feel-good hormone that balances your mood. Your body is ready to take over and keep you emotionally fit. Use the essential oils whenever you like, but do not use them instead of moving. You have to invest in your body to reap the rewards.

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