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How To Maintain A Work-Life Balance When Life Is Busy

How To Maintain A Work-Life Balance When Life Is Busy

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Once upon a time, the boundaries between work and home were very distinct. Today, however, work is likely to intrude on your personal life — and preserving work-life balance is no simple undertaking.

This can be especially true if you work long hours. Technology that provides continual connection might cause work to seep into your time at home. Working from home might also blur professional and personal boundaries.

Still, work-life balance is attainable. Consider your relationship to work and how to create a healthy balance.

Married to your work? 

If you’re spending most of your time working, your work and your personal life can be badly affected. Consider the effects of inadequate work-life balance:

Fatigue: When you’re weary, your ability to work effectively and think clearly could diminish – which might take a toll on your professional reputation or lead to risky or costly blunders.

Poor health: Stress can increase symptoms associated with numerous medical disorders and put you at risk of substance use

Lost time with friends and loved ones: If you’re working too much, you can miss key family events or milestones. This can leave you feeling left out and can hurt your relationships.

Strike a better work-life balance

As long as you’re working, combining the responsibilities of professional and personal life will definitely be an ongoing issue. But by setting limitations and caring for yourself, you may achieve the work-life balance that’s ideal for you.

Setting limitations in work

If you don’t establish limitations, your job might leave you with little time for the relationships and activities you like. Consider these strategies:

Manage your time. Give yourself ample time to get things done. Don’t overschedule yourself.

Learn to say “no.” Evaluate your priorities at work and at home and strive to shorten your to-do list. 

Cut or delegate things you don’t love or can’t handle — or express your problems and possible solutions with your boss or others. When you stop taking on responsibilities because you feel guilty or have a false feeling of responsibility, you will free up more time to devote to pursuits that are personally significant to you.

Step away from your task. Working from home or making regular use of technology to stay connected to work when you are at home might give you the impression that you are never really off the clock at work. This might cause tension that lasts for a long time.

Take care of yourself and your well-being

Talk to your manager and find out what the expectations are for when you may disengage from work. If you work from home, you should still dress professionally and try to find a separate location that is as quiet as possible.

Detach yourself from work and ease into your home life by changing into a different wardrobe, going for a drive or a stroll, or engaging in an activity with your children when the day’s work is done.

Think about the choices you have. Enquire with your employer about the possibility of working fewer hours in a week, working fewer hours overall, job sharing, or any other kind of flexible scheduling. The more control you have over how you spend your time, the less likely you are to feel overwhelmed by stress.

Taking good care of oneself outside of work

The ability to deal with stress and strike a healthy balance between work and personal life both need a healthy lifestyle. Maintain a healthy diet, include some form of physical activity in your daily routine, and get enough rest. In addition to that, strive to:

Relax. Make it a habit to schedule time in your schedule for things that bring you joy, like doing yoga, tending to your garden, or reading. Relaxing, taking your mind off of work, and recharging your batteries are all benefits that come from having hobbies.

Find activities that you can participate in with your significant other, your family, or your friends, such as going on hikes, dancing, speed dating, or taking lessons in the kitchen.

Volunteer. Volunteering your time to help other people has been shown to strengthen your relationships with those around you, as well as contribute to greater overall life satisfaction and reduced levels of psychological discomfort.

Create a network of people who can help you. Join forces with other employees at your place of employment so that they can cover for you if a family emergency arises, and vice versa.

When you have to put in late hours at the office, ask reliable friends and family members to help you out at home by watching your children or taking care of other chores.

Take time out if needed

Recognize when you need the assistance of a professional. Talk to a mental health professional if you feel that the chaos in your life is too much for you to handle, and you find yourself going in circles thinking about it. Utilize the resources available to you through an employee assistance program if you have access to such a program.

Achieving a healthy work-life balance is an ongoing effort that must account for the shifting priorities of your family, interests, and career. To ensure that you are moving forward in the right direction, it is important to review your priorities on a regular basis and to be prepared to adjust them if required.


Keys To Living Well & Maintaining Happiness

Keys To Living Well & Maintaining Happiness

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Living well and maintaining happiness aren’t always easy goals to achieve. However, doing so will be quite gratifying and will help you improve your life and wellbeing in ways you never thought possible.

It’s about focusing on what you have control over and making an effort to invest in yourself even when you’re busy or distracted. These keys to living well and maintaining happiness will help guide you in your journey to achieving better wellness and a healthier lifestyle.

Have an Attitude of Gratitude

Being grateful for what you do have in life will help you maintain a positive mindset and outlook. You can live well and free and be happy when you focus on what’s going well and right for you. Have an attitude of gratitude from the minute you wake up to the time you go to bed and then notice how much more joy you feel. Write this stuff down so you can review it regularly and ensure you don’t let your mind wander to the negative. You may even want to consider giving back to your community or others by volunteering as another way to feel good and like you’re contributing in a bigger way.

Take Care of Your Health

Another key to living well and maintaining happiness is to take care of your health. It doesn’t matter if it’s a routine physical that you schedule or that you find a dentist that can fix a cracked tooth in an emergency. You should practise self-care regularly and address issues or ailments right away so that you can be well and feel happy. Also, exercise and get fit so that you can boost your mental health and have more natural energy. It’s not only about staying healthy physically but mentally as well.

Invest in Rewarding Relationships

Invest in relationships that you find rewarding and beneficial so you can live well and maintain happiness. Surround yourself with positive people who make you feel good and have your best interest in mind. Fulfilling relationships will help keep you grounded and it’ll be nice to have people that you can rely on in times of need or to gather with when you have some free time. Making time to socialise will help you stay balanced as well.

Keep A Clean & Tidy Home

You can also live well and maintain happiness by keeping a clean and tidy home and place to live. Get organised and declutter your rooms so that you can live more minimally and simplistically. It’s a great way to feel more peaceful daily and reduce the stress that can build up over time from looking at a messy house. You’ll be much happier when you can find what you are looking for and aren’t tripping on your belongings when moving about in your home.


You now have a better idea of what it takes to live well and maintain happiness. These are some of the best ways to ensure that your life and health improves in the long run. It’ll be worth the effort and energy once you feel great and are achieving your goals. 


3 Ways to Get More Peace and Quiet

3 Ways to Get More Peace and Quiet

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In the modern world, a little peace and quiet is very difficult to come by. We are constantly bombarded by phone notifications, emails, and social media updates. No matter where you are in the world, you can always be contacted by work, friends, or family, and this can make it tough to relax. This stress can be augmented if you have young children, a high-pressured career, or a lot of social commitments. With so much on your plate, how can you find the time to settle down?

Despite the prevalence of technology and the excess of stress in your life, there are still ways to find some much needed tranquility in your life. You just need to be strict with yourself and adopt some smart techniques for getting away from the world for a while. Here are three ways to get a bit more peace and quiet.

Turn off your phone

Our phones have become like limbs, as they are completely inseparable from our bodies and we don’t like them to be out of our sight. They have so many useful applications in our lives, but they are also one of the biggest causes of stress. Phone addiction is a widespread phenomenon, and our inability to switch off leads to all kinds of health issues and cognitive defects. It impacts our mental health, memory, thinking, concentration, and self-esteem. Not to mention the vision and postural problems caused by hunching over a screen all day. Don’t let those buzzing notifications dictate your life. Endeavor to spend the minimum amount of time possible on your phone, using it only when absolutely necessary. Switch it off when you’re not using it and use this time to read a book or go for a long walk instead. Delete unnecessary apps or set timers so you can be vigilant about overuse. Spending less time in the digital world will enhance your life in so many ways.

Spend time in nature

You might have a stressful career or a cramped household, but the world is full of relaxing places where you can go to be alone with your thoughts. Spending time in nature has proven benefits on one’s mental health, and even taking five minutes of solitude each day will make your stress levels plummet. Even if you live in the city, far away from the countryside, there are no doubt still parks and rivers near you where you can go for a walk.

Build your own relaxation space

If you don’t have anywhere in your home where you can go to get away from screaming children or your incessant work emails, why not build your own fortress of solitude? If you have a spare room in your house, you could convert it into a space just for you to go and wind down, with no children, or phones, allowed. Alternatively, you could construct your own shed, or one of these modular garden rooms, to which you can retreat and spend some time away from the world. Although these options will require a bit of time and money, the results will be more than worth the effort.


How To Take Better Care Of Your Mental Health

How To Take Better Care Of Your Mental Health

Have you ever been told to just ‘snap out of it’ or to ‘cheer up’ when you’re feeling down? You’ll know that it is just not that easy when you struggle with depression. 

Depression is an illness. It is not just an emotional weakness. It is caused by imbalances of brain chemicals or from historic trauma in your past. It should be treated as an illness just like any physical health problem might be. If you are struggling with depression, it is not something that you should feel the need to say sorry for, and you shouldn’t have to wear a smile for someone else’s benefit. 

Self-care is important, and you should do everything possible to look after yourself. Getting into a routine of looking after yourself is hard, however, in the long run, it is one of the best ways of helping yourself. 

Here are several ways that you could consider when it comes to taking better care of your mental health. 

Realize That You Need To Prioritize Your Mental Health 

Putting yourself first can be hard. Firstly, you may believe that to do this is selfish. Putting your needs before the needs of others may not come naturally to you. You may naturally be someone who believes in hard work and effort, and to put your own needs first may seem counter-intuitive to your goals and unproductive. But you must do your best to prioritize your mental health needs above everything else. This means giving yourself time to rest and recover whenever you need it. 

Stop Judging Yourself 

The biggest critic that you probably have is yourself. You may spend a lot of your time beating yourself up or judging yourself. But a judgement is an opinion, not a statement of fact. Don’t allow your negative view of yourself replace the real you. 

Keep your negative thoughts in check by challenging them. 

Look At Taking Herbal Remedies

There are many great herbal remedies for depression and anxiety. St John’s Wort is one example of a traditional remedy. Another might be CBD. 

CBD comes from the same plant as cannabis, however, it has none of the same psychoactive properties that the drug cannabis has, meaning that there is no high and you are just left feeling more relaxed- but still able to go about your regular daily life. 

CBD oil UK is one of the more popular ways of taking CBD, however, you can also get it in the form of gummies, or vape liquid. 

Talk About Your Problems 

One of the best ways of dealing with your mental health problems is to talk them through with a friend. Go for a coffee with a close friend and let them know what you are going through. You may be surprised at how empathetic and supportive they may end up being. In addition to this, they may be able to give you some advice on the situation that you find yourself in.  


Has Your Spouse Lost Interest In You?

Has Your Spouse Lost Interest In You?

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Maintaining a mindful marriage is not easy. It means looking at and appreciating the good in your marriage, but also being wary of the bad, and taking care of those aspects before they cause a serious rift. A seeming loss of attraction, oft accompanied by a decrease in sexual intimacy in a marriage, can become a serious problem. As such, it’s worth taking the time to identify any causes that might be behind it.

Talk about physical intimacy

Sex is an everyday part of marriage and, while outside circumstances can make it a little harder to get intimate with your partner, there should still be signs of physical and emotional affection that aren’t necessarily for the bedroom alone. If your partner doesn’t cuddle, kiss, or show simple physical intimacy, then it may be because of deeper reasons. They might feel their own sex drive changing with age, for instance. However, there can also be physical and emotional health issues at the root of it, too.

The question of mental health

Mental health issues of all stripes can affect our desire and ability to feel sexual attraction. Depression has been known to decrease sex drive drastically and stress may mean that someone is too focused on minor problems in their life to “get into the mood.” If your partner has been changing, it may be a sign that they need to seek help, rather than a change to do with you.

Sexual dysfunction is a real threat

Aside from the mental health issues that can affect our desire to be intimate, sexual health is another aspect that is worth addressing. For instance, a surprisingly frequent issue in marriages where physical intimacy becomes rarer and rarer is pornography addiction. Not only can it mean that a partner never shows interest in real intimate contact, but it can affect your feeling of self-esteem and self-worth as a partner. Addictions of all kinds can destroy marriages, so it’s important to address them and treat them thoroughly.

Have you changed?

Self-reflection can be difficult and it’s important to ensure that it does not turn into self-blame. However, if you have experienced excessive weight gain since the beginning of the marriage, it can affect the attraction of your partner to you. Furthermore, it may have affected your own self-esteem. You might notice that your partner doesn’t initiate as much, but it could be the case that you haven’t noticed your behaviour has changed in the same way.

Remind your partner why they were interested in you

Marriage changes a relationship, turning it from something that’s purely attraction-driven into a partnership that’s as practical as it is passionate. Taking the time to date your partner can help you both rediscover what it is that drew you both to one another, helping to rekindle things in the bedroom and beyond.

It might hurt to look into the reasons why your partner isn’t showing the kind of interest that they may have done, before. However, it’s worth identifying reality through honest and empathetic communication. You may, after all, be mistaken and find another reason for the shift in your marriage.


Time Needed

Time needed

You may or may not have noticed that our blog has been rather quite lately, well since spring if I’m honest. If you hadn’t noticed then it isn’t a problem of course, but I will explain the reason as to why our blog has been quiet.

Back in spring…

Our blog has been quiet since spring because this was the time I think I began to realise that I could no longer carry on pretending and had to stop with the constant worrying about what tomorrow would bring and just concentrate on the now. I am a known worrier – I just can’t help it and it bugs the hell out of Ian. I am always worrying about other people and hardly ever stop to think about myself. Do you find yourself doing the same?

On one of my lowest days back in spring Ian came home from work on his lunch break (he never does this) he came home to check on me and to see if I was OK. Upon his arrival home, no I wasn’t OK and he had walked-in to myself being in floods of tears and in a right state. I just felt like I had the weight of the world on my shoulders and I just couldn’t carry on anymore. On this day I had just had enough!

Things became more apparent…

I think on this day it became more apparent that I was having a breakdown. Back then I think my health problems played a massive part as it felt like they were winning, I was having to live day-by-day, not knowing how I was going to feel when I woke up which then had a knock-on affect to my job and I just felt like I was letting everyone down all the time. It just got to the point where painting a smile on my face and carrying on wasn’t working anymore. I did not feel in control anymore.

Back then I was working part-time as a carer support worker. My employer was fantastic and totally understanding but this didn’t stop me from feeling bad and like I was letting everyone down. I found that I was spending more time off sick than I was at work.

Things had to change…

It absolutely broke my heart and it was extremely hard to do but I resigned from my position as a carer/support worker. After a long chat with Ian he helped me realise that I just couldn’t carry on the way I was. Time out was desperately needed to help my health.

So, in the past 7 months I have been taking things day-by-day. I am now on medication to help with my depression. I do still have anxiety attacks but they are now few and far between, this has to be a good sign right?. I still have trouble sleeping but I am looking into ways to help with this. I now have things in place around the home to help make day-to-day life a little easier. I will be writing a post on things that I found and help me cope and carry on. Things which are still in place today.

Slowly gaining control…

My health conditions will always be there and I have now gotten use to that. I don’t like it but I have found my own way of accepting it. I am no longer going to dwell on what I can’t do because I am going to be to busy enjoying what I can do. I am not one for sitting around doing nothing so I am going to enjoy getting back to blogging again.

Ian and the boy’s have been my rock over the past few months. I really can’t thank them enough for helping me through. There is so much to share with you all but all that can be done in future posts.

Taking time out really has helped. There really is support out there for everyone. No one should have to suffer alone. Here is a link to >>> Mind <<< for anyone looking to seek help or support.

Always remember “it is OK to NOT be OK”